1. What is a marriage memorial ceremony exactly?
When a person dies, we sometimes refer to the memorial service as a celebration of life. When a marriage ends, it is cause for celebration of the life of the marriage. Divorce is a death in the family. And one of the greatest losses is not taking the opportunity to remember and regard the love first bringing the couple together. Stories over decades can vanish if a marriage is simply evaluated by its end. Yet, when we call upon these joys, it can heal the heartache caused by the oversight of them.
2. What is the purpose of a Marriage Memorial Ceremony?
A Marriage Memorial Ceremony pays tribute to a person’s marriage after legal divorce, when the time feels right. Its purpose is to provide closure for a marriage just as a wedding forms one. It honors the good in the relationship that first brought you together. It allows for memories to be preserved in the proper perspective for parents and their children.
3. Who is this for?
Divorced parents, no matter how long ago the divorce was finalized, individual parents, children with or without their parent(s), and parent(s) with or without their children. The other parent does not have to cooperate with or agree to the ceremony. Some children might not either. The ceremony is for the people who want one.
4. How is this different from a divorce ceremony?
There are divorce parties, divorce ceremonies, and then there are Soul Custody marriage memorial ceremonies. The difference is that the first two celebrate the divorce, while Soul Custody celebrates the marriage and family life it created. This isn’t a platform for rejoicing over divorce or congratulating oneself for leaving the person. It also isn’t meant to put the past behind or “get over it.” It is meant to reshape the way the marriage is perceived.
5. How do I know if this is right for me or not?
This is not for you if you are in the throws of legal battles, fighting over the custody of the children, in bitter arguments in front of the children, angry over financial arrangements, and still long for the person. Soul Custody requires a referral from a counselor to consider your request for a ceremony. It’s that powerful.
6. How do I know if I’m ready?
If you’re looking at these FAQs, you are ready to consider.
7. What do you offer?
Soul Custody offers tiers of marriage memorial ceremonies to consider. As your officiant, I offer choices for the creation of the ceremony and I officiate the actual ceremony itself.
8. How can I justify this expense?
No justification necessary, only comparison: The expense for a memorial service after the death of a marriage and its family life deserves the same consideration as when we pay for a memorial service after someone has died. Divorce is a death.
9. I’ve spent enough money on divorce. Is this affordable?
Within the tiers, you can select which level of ceremony you prefer. Keep in mind, such a ceremony may save you money on lawyers and counselors because of the harmony it can produce between divorced parents.
10. Isn’t this an attempt to rekindle the flames?
Reconciliation is a possibility, but not the aim of the service. However, imagine the other person running in to stop the marriage memorial ceremony from taking place. Imagine the person having the ceremony deciding to run from the altar with a change of heart. These are humorous possibilities just as they are in weddings. If you get back together, your ceremony fee is fully refundable. That’s a lifetime money-back guarantee. If you are 90 years old and re-marry, you’ll get your money back.
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